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Saturday, January 31, 2009
The Most Beautiful Girl
No, she's not Diana Hayden nor is she Sushmita Sen,
Not even Aishwarya Rai, Who is this girl then?
No, she does not flash her legs nor walk down the aisle semi-nude
For her such things are unthinkable, sacrilegious and downright rude
Miss World, Miss Universe, Miss "Anything", She does not aspire to be
She shuns all kinds of publicity in privacy she would rather be
Never in a swimming costume will she for a camera pose
Yes, she's the 'girl in hijaab' more beautiful than a rose!
Those who're 'stripped' of modesty will 'strip' for any cause
Whether on a lonely beach or in front of a full house
In their naked greed they dance In pursuit of earth's glory
Is there a thing more vulgar than a woman devoid of modesty?
In the name of freedom all moral values are now defined
Vulgarity, nudism, nakedness are steps to fame that wind
Those who are of rotten minds call it freedom of "female" species
Yet, they exploit them a-plenty, whenever and wherever they please.
But for their terrible transgressions maybe they are not fully to
blame, The Muslims forgot their duty and let them live in shame
Incumbent upon the Muslims it was to promote good and stop all vice
If they had done their duty such situations wouldn't arise
Back to our girl in hijaab much loved in Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala's sight
She is darling of all the angels Heaven beckons to her, by right
She's a simple Muslim Girl Yet more beautiful than a full moon
The brightness of her face is all "Noor" can there be a greater boon?
Modesty is her birth right without it, she'd feel lost
"Shamelessness" is a Devil's tool that she avoids at any cost
No, she does not commit sinful acts nor to base desires give vent
In studies, salah, zikr and tilawat much of her time is spent
In obedience of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala's commands she does all the things wise
And the riches that she scorns befits a "Princess of Paradise"
Our beloved Prophet Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam said modesty is a part of faith
For those who follow not we solemnly lay a wreath
No, she's not Diana Hayden nor she is Sushmita Sen
Nothing on earth would entice her Rupees, Dollars or Yen!
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Motherhood in Islam
The cases of the Mothers in the Qur'an are always accompanied by a sense of testing, challenge, anguish and for each one of these cases and there must be a reason for that.
Mother of Musa alayhis 'salam
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala told the Mother of Hazrat Musa alayhis 'salam ( through inspiration to do this unbelievable, challenging, trying and testing act that is to place her newborn son in the chest and throw it into the river to be picked up by one who is an enemy of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and an enemy of Hazrat Musa alayhis 'salam. How much faith and comfort a mother would have to respond to this call from Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala to throw her son and some people say that after all she did not have a choice because Pharaoh is killing the sons.
Nonetheless it is quite difficult to convince a mother to throw her son to the unknown like that. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala did not say that her son will be taken to safety and instead He said the baby will be picked up by one who is an enemy of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and an enemy of Musa alayhis 'salam. It must have been a very strong and faithful mother.
Mother of Hazrat Yahya alayhis 'salam
Hazrat Yahya alayhis 'salam's father Hazrat Zakariya alayhis 'salam was an old man and there was a need for an heir to carry the legacy of the message. Hazrat Zakariya alayhis 'salam's wife was also old. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala wanted him to have a very special child (Qur'an 19:7-11). We know that Hazrat Yahya alayhis 'salam played an important role in the chain of messengers because he was the one who conveyed the message and also who took care of Hazrat Isa alayhis 'salam.
The trial is not to Hazrat Zakariya alayhis 'salam but to his wife, the old woman who has to go through the tribulations to having that child. Nonetheless the father was sceptical of having a child in the old age but on the contrary the mother was joyful and cheerful about that situation and she came laughing aloud. (Qur'an 51:29)
She just had a positive attitude about the whole thing and cheerfulness that she could not hide even though it was a strange situation to be at.
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8. The hijab is Gheerah
The hijab fits the natural feeling of Gheerah, which is intrinsic in the straight man who does not like people to look at his wife or daughters. Gheerah is a driving emotion that drives the straight man to safeguard women who are related to him from strangers. The straight MUSLIM man has Gheerah for ALL MUSLIM women In response to lust and desire, men look (with desire) at other women while they do not mind that other men do the same to their wives or daughters. The mixing of sexes and absence of hijab destroys the Gheera in men. Islam considers Gheerah an integral part of faith. The dignity of the wife or daughter or any other Muslim woman must be highly respected and defended.
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7. The hijab is Haya' (Bashfulness)
There are two authentic hadith which state: "Each religion has a morality and the morality of Islam is haya'" AND "Bashfulness is from belief, and belief is in Al-Jannah (paradise)". The hijab fits the natural bashfulness which is a part of the nature of women.
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6. The hijab is Eemaan (Belief or Faith)
Allah (subhana wa'atala) did not address His words about the hijab except to the believing women, Al-Mo'minat. In many cases in the Qur'an Allah refers to the "the believing women". Aisha (Radhi Allahu Anhu), the wife of the prophet (Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam), addressed some women from the tribe of Banu Tameem who came to visit her and had light clothes on them, they were improperly dressed:
"If indeed you are believing women, then truly this is not the dress of the believing women, and if you are not believing women, then enjoy it."
5. The hijab is Taqwah (Righteousness)
Allah (subhana wa'atala) says in the Qur'an:
O children of Adam! We have bestowed raiment upon you to cover yourselves (screen your private parts, etc) and as an adornment. But the raiment of righteousness, that is better.'(S7:26).
The widespread forms of dresses in the world today are mostly for show off and hardly taken as a cover and shield of the woman's body. To the believing women, however the purpose is to safeguard their bodies and cover their private parts as a manifestation of the order of Allah. It is an act of Taqwah (righteousness)
The hijab is a Shield
4. The hijab is a Shield
The prophet (Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam) said:
"Allah, Most High, is Heaven, is Ha'yeii (Bashful), Sit'teer (Shielder). He loves Haya' (Bashfulness) and Sitr (Shielding; Covering)."
The Prophet (Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam) also said:
"Any woman who takes off her clothes in other than her husband's house (to show off for unlawful purposes), has broken Allah's shield upon her. "
The hadith demonstrates that depending upon the kind of action committed there will be either reward (if good) or punishment (if bad).
3. The hijab is Tahara (Purity)
Allah (Azzawajal ) had shown us the hikma (wisdom) behind the legislation of the hijab:
`And when you ask them (the Prophet's wives) for anything you want, ask them from behind a screen, that is purer for your hearts and their hearts.' (S33:53).
The hijab makes for greater purity for the hearts of believing men and women because it screens against the desire of the heart. Without the hijab, the heart may or may not desire. That is why the heart is more pure when the sight is blocked (by hijab) and thus the prevention of fitna (evil actions is very much manifested. The hijab cuts off the ill thoughts and the greed of the sick hearts:
`Be not soft in speech, lest he in whose heart is a disease (of hypocrisy or evil desire for adultery, etc) should be moved with desire, but speak in an honourable manner.' (S33:32)
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2.The Hijab is IFFAH (Modesty).
Allah (subhana wa'atala) made the adherence to the hijab a manifestation for chastity and modesty. Allah says:
'O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks (veils) over their bodies (when outdoors). That is most convenient that they should be known and not molested.' (S33:59).
In the above Ayaah there is an evidence that the recognition of the apparent beauty of the woman is harmful to her. When the cause of attraction ends, the restriction is removed. This is illustrated in the case of elderly women who may have lost every aspect of attraction. Allah (swt) made it permissible for them to lay aside their outer garments and expose their faces and hands reminding, however, that is still better for them to keep their modesty.
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The Virtues of Hijab ::1. An act of obedience.
1. An act of obedience.
he hijab is an act of obedience to Allah and to his prophet (pbuh), Allah says in the Qur'an:
`It is not for a believer, man or woman, when Allah and His messenger have decreed a matter that they should have an option in their decision. And whoever disobeys Allah and His Messenger, has indeed strayed in a plain error.' (S33:36).
Allah also said:
'And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc) and not to show off their adornment except what must (ordinarily) appear thereof, that they should draw their veils over their Juyubihinna.'(S24:31).
Juyubihinna: The respected scholars from As-Salaf As-Saleh (righteous predecessors) differed whether the veil cover of the body must include the hands and face or not. Today, respected scholars say that the hands and face must be covered. Other respected scholars say it is preferable for women to cover their whole bodies.
Friday, January 30, 2009
Medicine for anger!
"The strong man is not the one who can wrestle (fight); the strong man is the one who controls himself at the time of anger."
[Sahih al-Bukhari]
When Prophet Muhammad Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam became angry at someone else's wrong actions or disbeliefs, he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam never expressed it with his hand or tongue. His companions knew that he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam was angry by looking at his blessed face, which would be red and with some sweat on his forehead, and he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam would keep quiet for a moment, trying to control himself.
Once a couple went to Prophet Muhammad Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam and said, We have been fighting each other for many years. Each time she says something to hurt my feelings, I become angry, and then I fight back and this fight comes to such a degree that I am afraid that this verbal fight may, become physical, or we may end up divorced. So please advise how we can control our anger.
He told the husband that when your wife provokes you and makes you angry, take a sip of your water in your mouth and do not swallow it or spit it out, but keep it there until she has calmed down.
Well, he practiced that and a few months later, he reported back that it did work.
Since we believe that anger is an expression of satanic control, we must not let this control take over. The Prophet Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam has advised us to say, "During anger, I seek refuge from Satan in protection of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala."
He Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam also advised us that when angry, that one should sit down or lie down as it is not easy to hit someone else in those positions. Obviously, the best remedy is to think about Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and ask yourself a question, "are you in control of yourself, or would you allow Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala to take control of you?" Think of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala's anger and punishment. Is Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala's wrath less than your wrath? And what happens when He expresses His wrath? We humans who seek forgiveness from Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala must forgive others first.
When one forgive someone else, it establishes peace and tranquility in one's heart, but at the same time, the matter of injustice or wrong actions which made one angry, become a dispute between him and Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala and if one do not take revenge and forgive, Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala might act on ones behalf.
The first attribute of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala that Muslims are reminded (of) is Ar Rahman-Ar Rahim that is, The Most Kind and Most Merciful. Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has said, "My mercy overtakes my wrath", and in one of the hadith Qudsi , 'O son of Adam, when you get angry, remember Me."
One can also turn and pray to Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala to take control of the situation and the person or the people who have caused His anger. We must also think that tone life so dear to us, is a temporary life, and we must not forget our death and destroy the life of eternity at the cost of this life. Washing one's face with cold water or taking a cold shower is also helpful.
May we all act upon the sunnah of our Sarkare do alam Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam and keep our anger at bay inshAllah azzawajal
Frightening animals
Frightening animals
It was the last Friday in Sha`baan 1414ah. During an Ijtima at night to propagate the Sunnah at Baab-ul-Madina (Korangi), a young man met me. He was extremely frightened and narrated the following incident, `A young daughter of a very good friend of mine suddenly died. When we had completed the burial and were returning, the father of the deceased realised that he had accidentally left a bag which contained important papers with his young daughter in her grave. As a matter of great need, we had to reopen the grave. When we opened the grave, what we saw made us scream with extreme fear because the same young girl who we had just covered in a new piece of cloth was now sitting up straight with her shroud torn. Her legs were tied with the hair on her head and small frightening animals which we did not recognise were stuck to her. We forgot what we had come for and without even retrieving the bag, we covered the grave and ran from their. When I returned home, I inquired about the sins of this young girl. Her relatives revealed that she possessed no such bad habits which had made her look bad; however, like the young girls of today, she also thought of herself as a fashionable person and never used to cover herself. Recently, there was a wedding in her family and like other females, she also cut her hair and joined other women without any covering at all.`
Woman
Mother, beneath whose feet lies paradise. Daughter, who is the mercy of Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala. Sister, who is the honour of the family. Wife, who is the jewel of the home. All these are facades of the great personality known as woman.
The woman who had no worth before Islam. She was buried alive soon after birth, as her arrival signified disgrace and humiliation. Islam gave her respect and greatness. Consequently, as a mother she was presented with a status much higher than that of a father, and has given birth to some of the greatest prophets and saints.
The beloved prophet Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallamsaid, "Oh Muslims, the example of the following four women should suffice for every generation of your women: Hadhrat Maryam (mother of Hadhrat Isa Alai hisallam), Hadhrat Khadja-tal-Kubra Radi Allahu anha, Hadhrat Fatima- al-Zahra Radi Allahu anha, and Hadhrat Asiya Radi Allahu anha (wife of the Pharaoh)." (Tirmidhi)
Let us contemplate the importance of this example. Hadhrat Khadija Radi Allahu anha was one of the richest amongst the Arabs. Once she married, she sacrificed all her wealth for Islam and for the love of her Husband. She lived a happy life with patience and gratitude.
Then there is Hadhrat Fatima Radi Allahu anha, who whilst she lived in her father's home, she valued her father's love and affection above anything else in the world. After her marriage, her husband's home became everything. She raised her children through sheer struggle and graft, but her tongue never uttered a word of complaint.
The status quo in society is achieved only as a result of woman's faithfulness, modesty and her sacrifices. She maintains a systematic order in the home, and her knowledge and skills can illuminate it. Whilst she grows up in her parental home, she dutifully abides by her parents wishes. Following marriage she transfers this loyalty to her husband. Once she becomes a mother, she becomes the purveyor of abundant love for her offspring.
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala has entrusted the guardianship of woman to man, initially in the guise of a father, then in the shape of a brother and then as a husband. Prophet Muhammad Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam stated, "A woman is like a flower. Her purpose is not just to server you. Her time in your home is but one stage of her life. Take care of all her needs. Do not burden her with more than she can manage and do not subject her to hardship or injustice."
Scholars reommend that from a young age girls should be nurtured to be modest and faithful, and educated and trained in the skills of life. Society is in need of great personalities as mothers of the future. It is a shame to see that materialism and fashion worship has blinded mankind, as a result of which we are leading our own children astray.
Punishments for Women!
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
Assalamu 'Alaykum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
Kya Deen e Mustafa Ko Jagaaya Hussain Nay
Karbal Mein Sara Kumba Lutaaya Hussain Nay
Aisa Namaaz e Ishq Ka Sajdah Adaa Kiyaa
Sar Koh Jhukaa Kay Arsh Hilaaya Hussain Nay!!!!!
I Pray that you are all well and in the best state of Imaan, Ameen!
Hazrat Ali Radi Allahu anhu said that once he and Bibi Fatima Radi Allahu anha went to visit Rasoolallah Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam. Rasoolallah Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam was weeping. They inquired the reason that had made them Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallamweep. He Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam replied: "On the night of the Ascension (Miraaj Shareef), I saw the punishments being given to some women, today I was remembering those scenes. This is why I am worried". They Radi Allahu anhu asked, "Please tell us what did you see?" He Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam replied: "I saw a woman hanging by her hair and her brain was boiling. (This was the punishment of that woman who did not hide her hair by covering her head from men). I saw one woman hanging by her tongue with her hands tied against her back. (She used to hurt her husband's feelings by her tongue i.e. speaking). I saw one woman with both her hands and feet tied towards her forehead; and snakes and scorpions were attacking her. (She used to go out of her house without the permission of her husband and she did not clean up herself properly by taking a shower after menses and child birth bleeding). (Those women who use nail polish should learn a lesson from this. Keep in mind! Nail polish sticks to the surface of the nail hence, ablution and bath is not made.) One woman was eating her own flesh and there was fire burning under her. (She used to dress up and apply make-up in order to attract attention of males and she used to speak bad about people behind their backs). One woman was seen having her body being cut by a scissor made out of fire. (This was the punishment for showing her body and private parts to other men). One woman had a face of pig and the body of a donkey, and she was being punished in different styles. (She used to tell lies and make false accusations). There was a woman who looked like a dog, snakes and scorpions were entering into her front-side and coming out from her backside. And angels were hitting her with a hammer made up of fire. (She used to have an attitude problem towards her husband).
Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam
Astaghfirullah!
May Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala protect us all, Ameen!
Gunnaon ki addath chura mere Maulah
Mujhay naik insaan banna mere Maulah, Ameen!
Fi Aminillah
Wa'alaykum 'Assalam wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuhu
Maan ki wasiat
Arab ki aik mashoor alim adeeba nai apni beti ki rukhsati par us ko 10 wasiatain (advices) keen . kisi bhi zamanay main agar har biwi in 10 wasiaton par amal karay to ghar jannat ka namoona ban jaye
1: mairi piari beti! mairi ankhoon ki dhandak, shohar kai ghar ja kar QANAAt wali zindagi guzarnay ka ahtamam karna , jo daal roti millay is par razi rahna ,jo
rookhi sookhi shohar ki khushi kay saath mill jaye woh us murgh pulao sai bahtar hai jo tumharay israar karnay par us nai narazi sai dia ho
2: is baat ka khial rakhna kah apnay shohar ki baat ko hamesha tawajjah sai sunna , isay ahmiat daina aur har haal main in batoon pai amal karnay ki koshis kar
karna is tarah tum un kay dill main jagah bana lo gi kionkah admi nahin admi ka kaam piara hota hai
3:apni zeenato jamal ka aisa khial rakhna kah jab woh tujhhe nigah bhar kar daikhay to apnay intikhab (selection) par khush ho aur saadgi kay saath jitni bhi
hasil ho khushbo ka ahtamaam zaroor karna ... yaad rakhna tairay jism o libaas ki koi boo ( smell) ya banawat isay nafrat o kirahat na dilaye
4:apnay shohar ki nigah main purkashis maloom honay kai liye apni ankhon ko surma aur kajol sai araasta karna kionkah purkashis ankhain , pooray wajood
ko daikhnay walay ki nigahoon main jacha daiti hain
5:shohar ka khana waqt sai pahlay tiar rakhna kionkah dair tak bardasht ki janay wali bhook bharaktay hoye shoolay ki manind ho jati hai ... in kay aram karnay
aur neend poori karnay kay okaat (time) main sakoon ka mahool banana kionkah neend adhoori rah jaye to tabiat main ghussa aur chirchira pan paida ho jata
hai
6:in kai ghar in kay maal ki nagrani karna yaani in ki ijazat kai baghair koi ghar main na aye aur in ka maal laghwiat (fizool) numaish o fashion main barbaad
na karna kionkah maal ki bahtar hifazat husne intizaam sai hoti hai aur ahlo aiaal (family) ki bahtar hifazat husne tadbeer sai hoti hai
7 :hamesha in ki raazdaar rahna aur in ki nafarmaani hargiz na karna kionkah in jaisay baroob shakhs ki nafarmaani jalti par tail ka kaam karay gi aur agar tum us
ka raaz doosron sai na chupa saki to us ka aitmaad (trust) tum par sai hatt jaye ga aur tum bhi phir us kai do rukhaypan (double face) sai mahfooz na rah
sako gi
8: jab woh kisi baat par ghamgeen (unhappy) ho to apni kisi khushi ka izhaar in kay saamnay na karna yaani in kay gham main barabar ki shreek rahna ..
shohar ki kisi khushi kai waqt apnay chuppay hoye gham kai asraat chahray (face) pai na laana aur na shohar sai in kay kisi rawaye (behavior) ki shikayat
karna .. in ki khushi main khush rahna
9: agar tum in ki nigahon main kabile takreem (respected) banna chahti ho to is ki izzat aur ahtaram ka khoob khial rakhna aur is ki marzi kay mutabik chalna
.. phir to tum is ko bhi hamesha apni zindagi kay har marhalay main apna bahtareen rafeeq (friend) pao gi
10: mairi piari beti! mairi is naseehat ko pallo sai bandh lo (always keep in your mind through out your life) aur is par girah laga lo kah jab tum in ki khushi
aur marzi ki khatir kai baar apna dill nahin maroo gi aur in ki baat oopar rakhnay kay liye khawah tumhain pasand ho ya na pasand (either you like it or not)
zindagi kai kaye marhalon ( periods) main apnay dill main uthnay wali khwahishon (wishes) ko dafan nahin karo gi , us waqt tak tumhari zindagi main bhi
khushi kai phool nahin khillain gay , aay mairi piari aur laadli beti main in nasihaton kai saath tumhain ALLAH kay hawalay karti hoon
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Weddings: A Time to Thank Allah azawajal
Weddings: A Time to Thank Allah Azawajal
by Muhammad Ash-Shareef
�And of His signs is that He created for you from yourselves mates that you may find tranquility in them; and He placed between you affection and mercy. Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought.� - Surah Ar-Rum, 21
In this time of happiness, when gifts are received, hugs are generously donated, and laughter sprinkles the tables, we must remember who gave this all to us.
In this verse, Yamtann Allahu Alayna � Allah reminds of us of His favour upon us. Every husband in this room, it is Allah that created your bride. Every bride in this room, Allah created your husband. Allah created the pairs and then blessed the pair with love and mercy.
Then Allah says: �Indeed in that are signs for a people who give thought�. Let�s take the time now to give a little thought to Allah�s favour upon us.
Sulayman � alayhis salam � sat his son down one day and taught him about Allah and life. Allah mentions what he said
�And We enjoined upon man (care) for his parents. His mother carried him, (increasing her) in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years: Be grateful to Me and to your parents; to me is the (final) destination.�
Thank Allah:
Every thing that you enjoy, everything that you love is from Allah:
�And whatever you have of blessing (indeed) it is from Allah!�
Thank Allah, remember Him and He will remember you. Allahu akbar!
�Remember me and I shall remember you, and be thankful to Me and do not be ungrateful.�
Allah will give us more when we are thankful:
�And (remember) when your lord proclaimed, �if you are grateful, I will surely increase you; but if you deny, indeed, My punishment is severe.�
I�ve heard of Muslims that regularly donate half a million dollars to the Democratic Party to have their picture taken with Clinton and his wife! They place these pictures up in the middle of their homes in all pride and honour.
Yet to every parent, let me draw your attention the most noble picture to put up in your home. Allah ta�ala put His majesty and every parent in this world in a portrait: �Be grateful to Me and to your Parents!�
Scholars have said that being grateful to Allah is to be grateful for the Iman that He has blessed us with. And to be thankful to our parents is to be grateful for the hard work they went through to raise us.
Ibn Abbas raa said, �There are three things that will not be accepted if it�s mate is not fulfilled. (And he mentioned), �Thank Me (Allah) and your Parents...� � Luqmaan 31/14.
Ibn Abbaas continued, �Thus whoever thanks Allah and is not thankful to his parents, Allah will not accept it from him.�
The scholars understood this and set the example for us. Haywah bin Shurayh ra.gif, one of the Imam�s of our Ummah, used to give classes in front of his home. During the class, his Mother would call him to feed the chickens. He would stand up, leave the Halaqah, and go feed the chickens.
Sufyan ibn Uyaynah � one of the Ummah�s greatest scholars � said, �Whoever prays the 5 salah has been grateful to Allah. And whoever prays for his parents after the Salah has been grateful to them.�
My mother in Law, Ali�s mother once told me about when Ali was young. He would come home from school, run up to her and give her the strongest hug. Then he would top it off with, �Mummy I love you.� She would mention the story and then let a tear drop.
As we get older, words like �I love you� become harder for us to say. Yet as much as it becomes harder for us to say, as much as it becomes more precious to the parents.
I ask Allah ta�ala that we not forget this innocence, when we were without sin, when we used to bring a smile to our parents.
Let�s keep making them smile. And In doing so, we would be thanking Allah.
General questions-For Islmaic Sisters
Ways of increasing happiness in your marriage and making it a successful one, Insha Allah Talaa.
May Allah Talaa bless you all, Ameen!! The young and excited bride-and-groom-to-be; ecstatic about the upcoming wedding and marriage and the joy that it will bring. Three to six months later, reality has set in and both spouses realize that marriage is no easy task, but one that takes a great deal of effort and patience. The following are tips for both wives and husbands, to help make the task a little less daunting, and to increase the many rewards that are possible in such a marvelous and complex relationship.
Enter the Marriage with the Right Intention and Renew this Often
Both spouses should enter the marriage with the pure intention of pleasing Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, in order to receive His grace and blessings. The marriage itself then becomes an act of worship and one for which both spouses will be rewarded. Allah will be pleased with them and this will be the most critical element in ensuring peace, stability and happiness throughout the marital life. It is also important to realize that when an act of worship is continued over a long period of time, it becomes necessary to renew one's intention often to remain on the correct path and to obtain the most benefit.
Remember that Your Spouse is also Your Brother or Sister in Islam
Too often Muslims treat other people outside the home with kindness and sincerity, but then behave in a very different manner when it comes to their own spouses. Muslims should always remember that one's spouse is also another brother or sister in Islam and that the rights and duties that apply to the general brotherhood (sisterhood) of Islam, should also form the basis of the marital relationship. Obviously, a spouse has rights beyond these, but there should be a clear understanding of the rights of brotherhood (sisterhood) and adherence to these principles.
Do Not Hold Unrealistic Expectations
Before marriage, people often have unrealistic ideas about their spouse-to-be, expecting perfection in all aspects. This rarely, if ever, plays out in reality and can lead to unnecessary problems and concerns. We should recall that Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, created humans as imperfect beings, which means that many mistakes will be made throughout a lifetime. By turning the table and expecting imperfection, we will be pleasantly surprised and pleased when our spouse is much more than we ever hoped for. This, in turn, will lead to contentment within the marriage.
Emphasize the Best in Your Spouse
Since no one is endowed with all of the best qualities, emphasis should be placed on the positive qualities that a spouse possesses. Encouragement, praise, and gratitude should be expressed on a regular basis, which will strengthen these qualities and be beneficial in developing others. An attempt should be made to overlook or ignore negative characteristics, as the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, "A believing man should not have any malice against a believing woman. He may dislike one characteristic in her, but may find another in her which is pleasing." (Muslim)
Be Your Mate's Best Friend
Try to think of what a best friend means and be one to your spouse. This may mean sharing interests, experiences, dreams, failures and upsets. It may involve understanding a spouse's likes and dislikes and attempting to please him or her in any way possible. A best friend is also usually someone that can be confided to trusted, and relied upon. A spouse should be the kind of friend that one would want to keep throughout life.
Spend Quality Time Together
It is not enough to share meals, chores and small talk together. Spouses should also find time to focus on strengthening the relationship. Often couples get busy with their own separate tasks and forget about working on one of the most important elements in life. Quality time may be anything from having a quiet, profound conversation to going for a nice long nature walk, to sharing a special hobby or project. Both spouses should enjoy the particular option chosen and distractions should be kept to a minimum.
Express Feelings Often
This is probably a very "Western" concept and one that some people may have difficulty fulfilling, but it is important to be open and honest about one's feelings, both positive and negative. The lines of communication should always be open and any concerns should be brought to the attention of the other spouse as soon as they arise. The rationale of this is that what begins as a simple concern may grow into a major problem if it is not addressed quickly and properly. The "silent treatment" has never been the remedy for anything.
Admit to Mistakes and ask for Forgiveness
Just as we ask Allah to forgive us when we make mistakes, we should also do the same with our spouses. The stronger person is the one who can admit when he or she is wrong, request pardon from the other, and work hard to improve his/her aspects that are in need of change. When a person is unwilling to do this, there will be little growth and development in the marriage.
Never Bring up Mistakes of the Past
It can be very hurting for another person to be reminded of past mistakes. In Islam, it is generally not recommended to dwell on the past. One may remember errors that were made so that they are not repeated, but this should not be done excessively. Certainly, as humans, we are not in the position to judge another person. Advice may be given, but not in a harmful manner.
Surprise Each Other at Times
This may entail bringing home a small gift or flowers, preparing a special meal, dressing up and beautifying oneself (this is not only for women), or sending a secret note in a lunchbox. A little imagination will go a long way here. The idea is to spice up the marriage and avoid getting into a dull routine that may negatively affect the marriage.
Have a Sense of Humour
This particular aspect can go a long way in preventing arguments and brightening the atmosphere of the home. Life is a constant stream of challenges and tests, and to approach it in a light-hearted manner will help to make the journey smoother and more enjoyable. You may also find that your spouse enjoys this characteristic and looks forward to spending time with you because of it.
Quick Tips for Discussions and Disagreements: ;-)
Begin with the intention to resolve the issue. If both spouses have this intention and plan to consult together, it is more likely that there will be a successful resolution, dear brother/ sister, Remember that it takes two to quarrel. If only one person chooses not to argue, there will be no argument. Generally, the one who is wrong does most of the talking. (hehe)
Both spouses should not be angry at the same time. If one of the spouses becomes upset, it is best if the other tries to remain calm, Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. Of course, house fires do not occur very frequently; yelling should occur at about the same rate!!
Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. This is one of the worst things that can happen in a marriage and should be avoided as much as possible. This allows hurt feelings and thoughts to linger and generally exacerbates the problem.
If one spouse needs to win, let it be your mate. Do not focus on winning yourself this is the main reason that discussions tend to become heated.
Tips for a Happy and Successful Marriage!!
Ways of increasing happiness in your marriage and making it a successful one, Insha Allah Talaa.
May Allah Talaa bless you all, Ameen!! The young and excited bride-and-groom-to-be; ecstatic about the upcoming wedding and marriage and the joy that it will bring. Three to six months later, reality has set in and both spouses realize that marriage is no easy task, but one that takes a great deal of effort and patience. The following are tips for both wives and husbands, to help make the task a little less daunting, and to increase the many rewards that are possible in such a marvelous and complex relationship.
Enter the Marriage with the Right Intention and Renew this Often
Both spouses should enter the marriage with the pure intention of pleasing Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, in order to receive His grace and blessings. The marriage itself then becomes an act of worship and one for which both spouses will be rewarded. Allah will be pleased with them and this will be the most critical element in ensuring peace, stability and happiness throughout the marital life. It is also important to realize that when an act of worship is continued over a long period of time, it becomes necessary to renew one's intention often to remain on the correct path and to obtain the most benefit.
Remember that Your Spouse is also Your Brother or Sister in Islam
Too often Muslims treat other people outside the home with kindness and sincerity, but then behave in a very different manner when it comes to their own spouses. Muslims should always remember that one's spouse is also another brother or sister in Islam and that the rights and duties that apply to the general brotherhood (sisterhood) of Islam, should also form the basis of the marital relationship. Obviously, a spouse has rights beyond these, but there should be a clear understanding of the rights of brotherhood (sisterhood) and adherence to these principles.
Do Not Hold Unrealistic Expectations
Before marriage, people often have unrealistic ideas about their spouse-to-be, expecting perfection in all aspects. This rarely, if ever, plays out in reality and can lead to unnecessary problems and concerns. We should recall that Allah, subhanahu wa ta'ala, created humans as imperfect beings, which means that many mistakes will be made throughout a lifetime. By turning the table and expecting imperfection, we will be pleasantly surprised and pleased when our spouse is much more than we ever hoped for. This, in turn, will lead to contentment within the marriage.
Emphasize the Best in Your Spouse
Since no one is endowed with all of the best qualities, emphasis should be placed on the positive qualities that a spouse possesses. Encouragement, praise, and gratitude should be expressed on a regular basis, which will strengthen these qualities and be beneficial in developing others. An attempt should be made to overlook or ignore negative characteristics, as the Prophet, sallallahu alayhe wa sallam, said, "A believing man should not have any malice against a believing woman. He may dislike one characteristic in her, but may find another in her which is pleasing." (Muslim)
Be Your Mate's Best Friend
Try to think of what a best friend means and be one to your spouse. This may mean sharing interests, experiences, dreams, failures and upsets. It may involve understanding a spouse's likes and dislikes and attempting to please him or her in any way possible. A best friend is also usually someone that can be confided to trusted, and relied upon. A spouse should be the kind of friend that one would want to keep throughout life.
Spend Quality Time Together
It is not enough to share meals, chores and small talk together. Spouses should also find time to focus on strengthening the relationship. Often couples get busy with their own separate tasks and forget about working on one of the most important elements in life. Quality time may be anything from having a quiet, profound conversation to going for a nice long nature walk, to sharing a special hobby or project. Both spouses should enjoy the particular option chosen and distractions should be kept to a minimum.
Express Feelings Often
This is probably a very "Western" concept and one that some people may have difficulty fulfilling, but it is important to be open and honest about one's feelings, both positive and negative. The lines of communication should always be open and any concerns should be brought to the attention of the other spouse as soon as they arise. The rationale of this is that what begins as a simple concern may grow into a major problem if it is not addressed quickly and properly. The "silent treatment" has never been the remedy for anything.
Admit to Mistakes and ask for Forgiveness
Just as we ask Allah to forgive us when we make mistakes, we should also do the same with our spouses. The stronger person is the one who can admit when he or she is wrong, request pardon from the other, and work hard to improve his/her aspects that are in need of change. When a person is unwilling to do this, there will be little growth and development in the marriage.
Never Bring up Mistakes of the Past
It can be very hurting for another person to be reminded of past mistakes. In Islam, it is generally not recommended to dwell on the past. One may remember errors that were made so that they are not repeated, but this should not be done excessively. Certainly, as humans, we are not in the position to judge another person. Advice may be given, but not in a harmful manner.
Surprise Each Other at Times
This may entail bringing home a small gift or flowers, preparing a special meal, dressing up and beautifying oneself (this is not only for women), or sending a secret note in a lunchbox. A little imagination will go a long way here. The idea is to spice up the marriage and avoid getting into a dull routine that may negatively affect the marriage.
Have a Sense of Humour
This particular aspect can go a long way in preventing arguments and brightening the atmosphere of the home. Life is a constant stream of challenges and tests, and to approach it in a light-hearted manner will help to make the journey smoother and more enjoyable. You may also find that your spouse enjoys this characteristic and looks forward to spending time with you because of it.
Quick Tips for Discussions and Disagreements: ;-)
Begin with the intention to resolve the issue. If both spouses have this intention and plan to consult together, it is more likely that there will be a successful resolution, dear brother/ sister, Remember that it takes two to quarrel. If only one person chooses not to argue, there will be no argument. Generally, the one who is wrong does most of the talking. (hehe)
Both spouses should not be angry at the same time. If one of the spouses becomes upset, it is best if the other tries to remain calm, Never yell at each other unless the house is on fire. Of course, house fires do not occur very frequently; yelling should occur at about the same rate!!
Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled. This is one of the worst things that can happen in a marriage and should be avoided as much as possible. This allows hurt feelings and thoughts to linger and generally exacerbates the problem.
If one spouse needs to win, let it be your mate. Do not focus on winning yourself this is the main reason that discussions tend to become heated.
Method of offering the pray
A few differences in the way Islamic sisters pray
The method mentioned is for an Imaam or a male praying on his own. Islamic Sisters should lift their hands for the Takbeer-e-Tahreema to their shoulders and keep them tucked inside their mantles. (Al hidayah ma� fathul qadeer, V1, P246). In the position of qiyam, the hands should be placed below the chest with the right palm on top of the left. They should bend only slightly in ruku�, enough to place the hands on the knees; they should not press against their knees or grab them tightly, their fingers should be kept close and knees slightly bent, not completely straight like men. (Fatawa Alamgiri, V1, P73) In sajdah, the body should be kept close together, i.e. the arms should touch the sides, the stomach should touch the thighs, the thighs should touch the shins and the shins should touch the ground. (Al hidayah ma� fathul qadeer, V1, P267). Both feet should point backwards in sajdah and in qa�dah both feet should be pointing towards the right and they should sit on the left buttock. Both hands should be in the centre of both thighs. The remaining detail is the same.
(Al hidayah ma� fathul qadeer, V1, P272)
Both should pay attention to this!
Some of the things in the described method of Salaah for both Islamic brothers and Islamic sisters are fardhh, (without which the Salaah is invalid) some are wajib, (to miss any of these deliberately is a sin, to repent and repeat the Salaah in this case is wajib, and if any one of these is missed unintentionally then sajdah sahw becomes wajib) some are sunnah mu�akkadah, (to develop a habit of missing these is a sin) and some are mustahab (to perform these is a virtuous act but to miss them is not a sin). (Bahar-e-Shariat, Part 3, P66, Madina-tul-Murshid Bareili Shareef)
The status of women in society
The image of the typical Muslim woman wearing the veil and forced to stay home and forbidden to drive is all too common in most peoples thoughts.
The status of women in Islam is often the target of attacks in the media. The �hijab� or the Islamic dress is cited by many as an example of the �subjugation� of women under Islamic law. Before mentioning the reasoning behind the religiously mandated �hijab� (the Muslim woman�s code of dress), let us first study the status of women in societies before the advent of Islam. In the past women were degraded and generally used as objects of lust.
The following are examples from history which amply illustrate the fact that the status of women in earlier civilizations was very low to the extent that they were denied basic human dignity:
A. Babylonian Civilization: Women were degraded and denied all rights under the Babylonian law. If a man murdered a woman, instead of him being punished, his wife was put to death.
B. Greek Civilization: Greek Civilization is considered the most glorious of all ancient civilizations. Under this very �glorious� system, women were deprived of all rights and were looked down upon. In Greek mythology, an �imaginary woman� called �Pandora� is the root cause of misfortune of human beings. The Greeks considered women to be subhuman and inferior to men. Prostitution became a regular practice amongst all classes of Greek society.
C. Roman Civilization: When Roman Civilization was at the zenith of its �glory�, a man even had the right to take the life of his wife. A Prostitution and nudity were common practice amongst the Romans.
D. Egyptian Civilization: The Egyptians considered women to be evil and a sign of a devil.
E. Pre-Islamic Arabia: Before Islam spread in Arabia, the Arabs looked down upon women and very often when a female child was born, she was buried alive.
When Islam came, it uplifted women and gave them equality and expected them to maintain their status. Islam raised the status of women and granted them their just rights 1400 years ago. Too often the image of a covered woman is used to represent what much of the world views as oppression. Her very existence is described in terms that convey ignorance and unhappiness. Words like, beaten, repressed and oppressed are bandied about by some media in a desperate attempt to convince the readers that women in Islam have no rights. Descriptive and intrinsically oppressive terms such as shrouded and shackled are used to portray an image of women who have no minds and who are the slaves or possessions of their husbands and fathers. This is a misconception of the real image of women in Islam. In Islam, a woman has the basic freedom of choice and expression based on recognition of her individual personality. A Muslim woman chooses her husband and keeps her name after marriage. A Muslim woman's testimony is valid in legal disputes. In fact, in areas in which women are more familiar, their evidence is considered to be conclusive. In Islam women are encouraged in Islam to contribute their opinions and ideas. There are many traditions of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him/PBUH) which illustrate how women would pose questions directly to him and offer their opinions concerning religion, economics and social matters. The reason why �Hijab� is prescribed for women is mentioned in the Qur�an in the following verses of Surah (chapter) Al-Ahzab:
"O Prophet! Tell your wives and daughters, and the believing women to bring down over themselves (part) of their outer garments. That is most convenient that they should be known (as chaste, believing women) and not molested. And Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful." [Al-Qur�an 33:59] The Qur�an says that �Hijab� has been prescribed for women so that they are recognized as being modest women and this will also prevent them from being molested. Suppose two sisters who are twins, and who are equally beautiful, walk down the street. One of them is attired in the Islamic �hijab�, i.e. the complete body is covered, except for the face and the hands up to the wrists. The other sister is wearing western clothes, a mini skirt or shorts. Just around the corner there is a hooligan or ruffian who is waiting for a catch, to tease a girl. Whom will he tease? The girl wearing the Islamic Hijab or the girl wearing the skirt or the mini? Naturally, he will tease the girl wearing the skirt or the mini. Such dresses are an indirect invitation to the opposite sex for teasing and molestation. The Qur�an rightly says that hijab prevents women from being molested. Under the Islamic �shariah� (law), a man convicted of having raped a woman, is given capital punishment. Many are astonished at this �harsh� sentence. Some even say that Islam is a ruthless, barbaric religion! I have asked a simple question to hundreds of non-Muslim men. Suppose, God forbid, someone rapes your wife, your mother or your sister. You are made the judge and the rapist is brought in front of you. What punishment would you give him? All of them said they would put him to death. Some went to the extent of saying they would torture him to death. To them I ask, if someone rapes your wife or your mother you want to put him to death. But if the same crime is committed on somebody else�s wife or daughter you say capital punishment is barbaric. Why should there be double standards? Western society falsely claims to have uplifted women
In western countries where liberation encompasses unlimited freedom, women are actually finding themselves living lives that are unsatisfying and meaningless. In their quest for liberation they have abandoned the ideals of morality and stability and found themselves in marriages and families that bear little resemblance to "real life". What is liberating about working all day and coming home at night to the housework. What is liberating about having babies who, at six weeks old, can be deposited in child care centers to learn their behavior and morality from strangers. Western talk of women�s liberation is nothing but a disguised form of exploitation of her body, degradation of her soul, and deprivation of her honor. Western society claims to have �uplifted� women. On the contrary, it has actually degraded them to the status of concubines, mistresses and society butterflies who are mere tools in the hands of pleasure seekers and sex marketers. In conclusion, The Muslim woman was given a role, duties and rights 1400 years ago that most women do not enjoy today, even in the West. These are from God and are designed to keep balance in society; what may seem unjust or missing in one place is compensated for or explained in another place.
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