The Ideal Husband

Prophet Muhammad (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) personifies the roles of perfect father and husband. He Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam was so kind and tolerant with his wives that they could not envisage their lives without him, nor did they want to live away from him. He Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam married Sawdah Radi Allahu anha, his second wife, while in Makkah. After a while, he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam wanted to divorce her for certain reasons. She was extremely upset at this news and implored him, "O Messenger of Allah Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam, I wish no worldly thing of you. I will sacrifice the time allocated to me if you don't want to visit me. But please don't deprive me of being your wife. I want to go to the hereafter as your wife. I care for nothing else"
[Muslim].

The Messenger (salAllahu alayhi wasalam) did not divorce her, nor did he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam stop visiting her. Once he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam noticed that Hafsah Radi Allahu anha was uncomfortable over their financial situation. "If she wishes, I may set her free," he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam said, or something to that effect. This suggestion so alarmed her that she requested mediators to persuade him not to do so. He Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam kept his faithful friend's daughter as his trusted wife.



Separation Calamity

All of his wives viewed separation from the Messenger of Allah Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam as a calamity, so firmly had he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam established himself in their hearts. They were completely at one with him. They shared in his blessed, mild, and natural life. If he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam had left them, they would have died of despair. If he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam had divorced one of them, she would have waited at his doorstep until the Last Day.

After his death, there was much yearning and a great deal of grief. Abu Bakr Radi Allahu anhu and Umar Radi Allahu anhu found the Messenger's Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam wives weeping whenever they visited them. Their weeping seemed to continue for the rest of their lives. Prophet Muhammad Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam left an everlasting impression on everyone. At one point, he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam had nine wives and dealt equally with all of them and without any serious problems. He Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam was a kind and gentle husband, and never behaved harshly or rudely. In short, he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam was the perfect husband.

Each of his wives thought that she was his most beloved. A few days before his death, he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam said, "A servant has been allowed to choose this world or his Lord. He chose his Lord" [sahih all-Bukhari]. Abu Bakr, Radi Allahu anhu intelligent and smart, began to cry, understanding that the Prophet Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam was talking about himself. His illness got worse daily, and his severe headache caused him to writhe in pain. But even during this difficult period, he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam continued to treat his wives with kindness and gentleness. He Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam asked for permission to stay in one room, as he Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam had no strength to visit them one by one. His wives agreed, and the Messenger Salla Allahu ta'ala 'alayhi wa Sallam spent his last days in A'isha's Radi Allahu anha room.


to be conitnued.. InshaAllah Azwajal..